President Trump almost never talks about his mother, Mary. He’s usually eager to talk about what a great businessman his father was, but not so when the subject is his mother. And a new report from Politico suggests why that might be.
Politico interviewed some of Trump’s childhood friends and business associates, along with some psychologists, in order to get a more fulsome sense of Trump’s relationship with his mother, which many suggest is the most important of all relationships when it comes to shaping a child’s personality.
According to friends who knew the Trump family, Mary Trump was a distant figure in the future president’s life. Childhood friend Mark Golding recalled:
“When I would play with Donald, his father would be around and watch him play. His mom didn’t interact in that way.”
Mary Trump gave birth to a total of five children between the years of 1937 and 1948. When Donald was still a toddler, she nearly died from severe hemorrhaging and an abdominal infection she incurred while giving birth to her youngest son, Robert. Mark Smaller, former president of the American Psychoanalytic Association, thinks the serious illness of Trump’s mother may have had an impact on young Donald:
“A 2½-year-old is going through a process of becoming more autonomous, a little bit more independent from the mother. If there is a disruption or a rupture in the connection, it would have had an impact on the sense of self, the sense of security, the sense of confidence.”
Psychiatrist Leonard Cruz echoed Smaller’s comments:
“From a child’s perspective, they’ve experienced the withdrawal of a mothering figure. It might evoke ways of acting that are increasingly bombastic and attention-seeking. The child becomes almost exaggerated in the ways they try to court attention.
“I’m not speaking specifically about Donald Trump,” he added, “but boy … “
In an interview she gave in 1990, Mary Trump was asked about her son, Donald, who was in the middle of a divorce and deeply in debt. She commented:
“What kind of son have I created?”
Perhaps that question is best answered by former APA president Prudence Gourguechon, who told Politico:
“Your mother helps you identify your feelings and develop a cognitive structure so you don’t have to act on them immediately, and I think it’s fair to say that the capacity for empathy develops through your maternal relationship.”
The inability to act judiciously on your feelings and a lack of empathy. Sounds a great deal like the man we now know as the 45th President of the United States.
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