5 Ways To Celebrate Holidays With Christian Friends And Family When You’re Not Religious

Religious people may think that atheists and non-believers are fighting some kind of “War on Christmas,” but we really aren’t. Many of us enjoy spending time with friends and family anyway. Here are some tips on how to handle religious differences, from author David G. McAfee:

1. Ignore The People Who Say “Don’t Talk About Religion Or Politics”

McAfee says that there isn’t any need to tiptoe around topics. Politics and religion are very important topics; they affect us all. Some families may have a strict ban on these topics, and that can work as well.

Many of us who are non-religious now actually grew up in religious households. Even if you don’t believe in the religious reasons behind the holidays, it can be very nice to participate in family traditions. We may just enjoy the secular aspects of the holidays more. Santa Claus and snowmen are symbols everyone can enjoy.

2. Find Common Ground

There is no need to start an argument. There has to be at least one topic you can agree on in the realm of religion and politics, or in another realm entirely. McAfee suggests that you explore these topics more. Your older relatives may have some great stories to tell.

Find something that is a little more fun to talk about. Celebrations are a part of human culture; religions may have changed over the centuries, but that part is still true.

As Richard Dawkins put it:

“Feasts have been part of human culture since long before we worshipped a monotheistic god. It is a deep-seated part of our social nature, and humans are arguably the most social animals on the planet. Eating together, breaking bread whilst telling stories about ancestors, about hunting, battles, and travels, were part of everyday life for successful tribes throughout human history.”

3. Be A Good Example

There are many religious people out there who think atheists and non-believers are hostile towards religion. McAfee points out that this is a common misconception people have about atheists. There are some people out there who are hostile towards Christianity and other religions. Don’t be that person. Be respectful of their beliefs (at least for the day).

4. Blood Is Thicker Than Politics

Politics and religion are very personal and divisive topics. Everyone may disagree on some things, but they are still your family. If things get too heated, try to change the topic or walk away. If it turns into a fight, just go cool off. It’s not worth ruining any relationships.

McAfee said:

“As long as all parties involved remember they love each other, disagreements should be OK and even encouraged. After all, how else do we learn? Try to talk to your most open-minded family members as much as possible.”

5. “Smile And Wave”

When the disagreements get too extreme and the blood starts to boil, just pretend.

As McAfee said:

“I recommend you take a tip from the penguins in the film Madagascar. When they were trying to ‘remain inconspicuous, one penguin said, ‘Smile and wave, boys. Smile and wave.” In other words, put on your best fake grin and pass the ham!”

Watch this video to learn more about how atheists relate to Christmas season and its holidays:

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h/t: David G. McAfee

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