BuzzFeed did one of their awesome experiments recently and asked women to share the first time someone said something mean about their bodies.
The video starts with this:
?I think what hurts the most is when you’re young and someone makes fun of the way you look, because you can’t control that.?
I’ll never forget the first time someone said a mean thing about my body. It was about my butt. I’m a chubby chick now, but growing up, I was not. However, I’ve always had a booty.
At the time when I was growing up, skinny was in. And in my culture, of course, having a booty wasn’t a good thing. I often say that although I’m not a fan of the Kim Kardashians of the world, I’m grateful that women like her have made beautiful curves stylish again.
So what happened in my story? Well after one person saying I had a big butt, and a few others following suit, I began a lifelong habit of trying to hide it. In grade school, when I had minimal control over my clothing choices, I wrapped my coat around my waist and tied it. To make matters worse, I was often dressed in hand-me-downs from boy cousins, and very few boys clothing flatters a curvy girl’s booty.
As I grew older, I was able to dress to camouflage it. The sad thing is that no matter how thin I was (and I was often very thin), I always thought I was fat because I couldn’t get rid of my booty. This led to all sorts of problems and eating disorder.
I wish I had known then what I know now and I’d tell my critics:
Hey haters? The boys love my booty. It makes them insane.?
NOT that this is all that matters, of course, but it is what matters to most women, in my experience.
I no longer worry about my booty, or really anything about my body. I want to be healthy, curvy, and yes, I do want to be sexy! It makes me happy. I think largely, sexy is a state of mind.
Watch the video below.
